Solidarität in Uniform: Gedenken von Sternenkinder bei der NYPD

Hastig sah der Polizist auf die große Uhr in der Eingangshalle der kleinen Polizeistation während er seine Kolleginnen und Kollegen zur schweren Eingangstür hinaus schickte. Es war fast sieben Uhr. In wenigen Minuten würde das Gedenken der Sternenkinder auf den Treppenstufen der Polizeistation beginnen. Während sich eine angespannte Stille langsam unter den sonst so lebendigen Polizistinnen und Polizisten ausbreitete, schweifte mein Blick an ihnen vorüber. Die Gruppe reflektierte durch die unterschiedlichen Hautfarben, Herkunftsorte und Traditionen die Vielfalt New Yorks. An keinem anderen Ort durfte ich eine solch bunt zusammengesetzte Gemeinschaft erleben wie am Big Apple. Die Polizeistation spiegelte in ihrem Mikrokosmos den sie umgebenden Makrokosmos wieder.

Nun setzten sie in Uniform Zeichen der Solidarität für ein sensibles Thema: An diesem Abend würden sich alle im Gedenken an all die Sternenkinder vereinen und Teil der globalen Bewegung #waveoflight sein, die rund um die Welt um dieselbe Uhrzeit Zeit ihnen gedachte und der Trauer Raum und Zeit gab.

Der Verlust eines Kindes in der Schwangerschaft oder dessen Stillgeburt bzw. schnelles Versterben ist in unserer Gesellschaft immer noch ein Tabu-Thema. Viele Betroffene scheuen sich, über diesen tiefgreifenden und erschütternden Verlust zu sprechen. An diesem Abend durchbrachen etliche Polizeistationen dieses Schweigen durch Zeichen der Solidarität. In den USA sterben laut CDC 24.000 Kinder während der Schwangerschaft, in oder nach der Geburt.

Als “Clergy Liaison” (eine Art ehrenamtliche Polizeiseelsorgerin und Brückenbauerin zwischen Anwohnern und Polizeistation) war ich eingeladen worden, einige Worte mit den Anwesenden zu teilen und ein Gebet zu sprechen. Keine einfache Aufgabe, denn das Thema betraf auch mich beruflich und privat. Ich schluckte noch einmal tief, während ich meinen NCO (Neighborhood Community Officer) ansah, dann begann ich zu sprechen…

I am humbled and honored to speak at today´s Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day at the 10thPrecinct.

It is a day to remember, to grieve, to give thanks, to share, to be silent, to give our losses expression through thoughts, prayers and support for those, who have been affected by losing a child too early as young lives have barely begun and cut short.

The 10th Precinct is setting a sign of solidarity and reflection as our society in a whole is mostly silent about Pregnancy and infant loss.  It is a loss that many of us suffer in silence.  I speak out of own experience.

But we have come together to remember.  Some of us present have experienced this loss personally or know someone, who had to struggle with a life cut short too early and shattered dreams of holding a healthy child in their arms.

We come to the Precinct from many backgrounds reflecting the beauty of New York.  Our skin color, our families history, our upbringing might have been different from one another, but we embrace this diverse community as a strength that helps us to understand one another, support each other and learn in beautiful ways. This is what makes New York so special: We stand together as a diverse community and support each other in times of need and grief.

Today we will light 12 candles to visualize the hope we have amongst pain. The support we give by standing together as one.

Darkness can overwhelm you, but even a single light can make the dark look less frightening giving hope and direction. May we always be for others a light, when they experience hard and dark times in their lives.

I will therefore now offer a small prayer, which is worded in a inclusive way. I invite you to either join in or reflect on its words no matter from which faith or none you might be.

In Psalm 46 we read:
“Be still, and know that I am God! I am exalted among the nations, I am exalted in the earth.” The LORD of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.” (Psalm 46:10-11)

Let us pray.

Heavenly father, creator of life and Lord of all nations,

We pray that during the quiet and still moments where our mind is racing and our hearts are hurting for others and maybe for ourselves, that you would help us to find peace amidst the pain.

We pray for the families, who have lost their children in pregnancy and infancy. As they are grieving, we ask that they may find peace and comfort.

They longed to get to meet this baby and see him or her grow up but now they won’t be able to. Help us to support them as a diverse and strong community that they may not become bitter but to rely on you for strength and healing.

Amen.

(Photo: NYPD 10th Precinct)

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